We often get caught up in the monotony of our daily lives that aside from nurturing others' needs we forget about our own. During the week we are rushing to please our bosses, loved ones, significant others and our children. I am asking that for the next 10 days we take just seconds out of our day and pay attention to and nurture ourselves. I'm not speaking of physical or material needs but rather of emotional health and our sex-esteem!
Sex-esteem is a healthy understanding of yourself pertaining to personal heigene and sexual awareness. To boost our sex-esteem, something as simple as using a special body wash, taking the extra few minutes in the morning to put on mascara or special perfume, or look yourself in the mirror and simply say something nice about yourself!
Try this: Use a lipstick on your bathroom or bedroom mirror, (no worries, it will wash off with dish soap), I am _____. Fill in the blank each day with a different word describing yourself. When you are stopped at a stop light, stop sign, waiting to turn a corner, repeat this phrase to yourself with your chosen word. And remember your sex-esteem includes your personality, appearance, character and attitude as well. This is to build confidence and your sex-esteem. Self-awareness is sexy; confidence is sexy; own your sexy; time to show you're sexy. Be generous to yourself. You need to convince yourself before others will believe.
I hope this reaches at least one woman who may need that boost in their sex-esteem. Change the way you look at yourself and increase your self awareness and confidence. I challenge you.
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Saturday, April 9, 2011
Top 10 Things Wives Want From Their Husbands
I came across this article while "surfing" and liked it so much I wanted to share! Even though it's entitled "What Women Want.." I do believe it can represent the man's perspective as well. So often we get caught up in the daily routine of life that we forget that we must nourish relationships in order to maintain their benefits for all those involved. We must keep things fresh and refill our lover's "love" tank regularly. Hope you enjoy and take something from this article. I know I did :-).
What Women Want From Marriage
By Sheri & Bob Stritof, About.com Guide
1. Telling Her Daily That She is Loved
Everyone wants to be affirmed. Everyone wants to know they are loved. The best ways to say “I love you” are usually in simple, everyday, seemingly unimportant ways like an unexpected hug or holding hands when you walk together.
2. Understanding and Forgiveness
There will be days when your wife will make mistakes or when she will be difficult to be around. No one is perfect. She both wants and deserves your willingness to understand and forgive her. Remember that no relationship can be sustained without forgiveness.
3. Conversation
Don’t let your conversations with your wife dwindle to nothing but talk about your kids, your jobs, and the weather. If that happens, your marriage relationship could be in real trouble.
4. Willingness to Make Time for Her and Your Children
Having quality time with your wife and kids isn’t something that just happens. You have to make it happen by not only making the plans but by following through. Time with those you love has to be a high priority for you.
5. Saying “Yes” More Than Saying “No”
Habitual negative responses to your wife and kids can push them away from you. Think twice before saying “no” and you will be surprised at how saying “yes” can improve your relationships.
6. Listening Well
It’s really disheartening for a wife to share her thoughts and feelings with her mate and then realize that he didn’t actually listen to her. Your wife wants you to not only listen with your ears, but to listen with your heart.
7. Affection and Kindness
How often do you say “please” or “thank you” or give your spouse an unexpected kiss? Unfortunately, some married couples forget that being kind and affectionate to one another are keys to a successful marriage.
8. Sharing Household and Child Rearing Responsibilities.
One of the main reasons couples fight is conflict over who is doing what around the house. Chores and child care are not the sole responsibility of your wife. She shouldn’t have to ask you to do your share around the house.
9. A Day Off Now and Then
Don’t fuss about your wife taking a day off several times a month. This means that she will be free from worrying about what is happening with the kids, the house, the pets, and you. She deserves this break in her schedule and she needs to provide it for herself to be emotionally and physically healthy.
10. Commitment to Take Care of Yourself Both Physically and Emotionally
Many men are notorious for not taking care of themselves when it comes to health issues. This isn’t fair to your wife. She is your lover not your mother. Take responsibility for your own health concerns.
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What Women Want From Marriage
By Sheri & Bob Stritof, About.com Guide
1. Telling Her Daily That She is Loved
Everyone wants to be affirmed. Everyone wants to know they are loved. The best ways to say “I love you” are usually in simple, everyday, seemingly unimportant ways like an unexpected hug or holding hands when you walk together.
2. Understanding and Forgiveness
There will be days when your wife will make mistakes or when she will be difficult to be around. No one is perfect. She both wants and deserves your willingness to understand and forgive her. Remember that no relationship can be sustained without forgiveness.
3. Conversation
Don’t let your conversations with your wife dwindle to nothing but talk about your kids, your jobs, and the weather. If that happens, your marriage relationship could be in real trouble.
4. Willingness to Make Time for Her and Your Children
Having quality time with your wife and kids isn’t something that just happens. You have to make it happen by not only making the plans but by following through. Time with those you love has to be a high priority for you.
5. Saying “Yes” More Than Saying “No”
Habitual negative responses to your wife and kids can push them away from you. Think twice before saying “no” and you will be surprised at how saying “yes” can improve your relationships.
6. Listening Well
It’s really disheartening for a wife to share her thoughts and feelings with her mate and then realize that he didn’t actually listen to her. Your wife wants you to not only listen with your ears, but to listen with your heart.
7. Affection and Kindness
How often do you say “please” or “thank you” or give your spouse an unexpected kiss? Unfortunately, some married couples forget that being kind and affectionate to one another are keys to a successful marriage.
8. Sharing Household and Child Rearing Responsibilities.
One of the main reasons couples fight is conflict over who is doing what around the house. Chores and child care are not the sole responsibility of your wife. She shouldn’t have to ask you to do your share around the house.
9. A Day Off Now and Then
Don’t fuss about your wife taking a day off several times a month. This means that she will be free from worrying about what is happening with the kids, the house, the pets, and you. She deserves this break in her schedule and she needs to provide it for herself to be emotionally and physically healthy.
10. Commitment to Take Care of Yourself Both Physically and Emotionally
Many men are notorious for not taking care of themselves when it comes to health issues. This isn’t fair to your wife. She is your lover not your mother. Take responsibility for your own health concerns.
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Add even more to your marriage/relationship! Enhancing your relationship with romance products toys, lingerie, erotica, can take just a “good” relationship to “great”! Booking a Brown Bag Party Couples party, or a Girl’s Night In Party to order products in a safe and private setting is the way to go. Our plastic wiggles, jiggles, and makes your friends giggle! Contact me today to book a FUN Brown Bag Party, or to find out more about this awesome business opportunity for yourself. Very lucrative, and you are your own boss! Email me!! or check out my website!!
How to be a Good Wife, 1950’s Style
The Good Wife’s Guide
From Housekeeping Monthly, 13 May, 1955.
*Have dinner ready. Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal ready on time for his return. This is a way of letting him know that you have be thinking about him and are concerned about his needs. Most men are hungry when they get home and the prospect of a good meal is part of the warm welcome needed.
*Prepare yourself. Take 15 minutes to rest so you’ll be refreshed when he arrives. Touch up your make-up, put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh-looking. He has just been with a lot of work-weary people.
*Be a little gay and a little more interesting for him. His boring day may need a lift and one of your duties is to provide it.
*Clear away the clutter. Make one last trip through the main part of the house just before your husband arrives. Run a dustcloth over the tables.
*During the cooler months of the year you should prepare and light a fire for him to unwind by. Your husband will feel he has reached a haven of rest and order, and it will give you a lift too. After all, catering to his comfort will provide you with immense personal satisfaction.
*Minimize all noise. At the time of his arrival, eliminate all noise of the washer, dryer or vacuum. Encourage the children to be quiet.
*Be happy to see him.
*Greet him with a warm smile and show sincerity in your desire to please him.
*Listen to him. You may have a dozen important things to tell him, but the moment of his arrival is not the time. Let him talk first – remember, his topics of conversation are more important than yours.
*Don’t greet him with complaints and problems.
*Don’t complain if he’s late for dinner or even if he stays out all night. Count this as minor compared to what he might have gone through at work.
*Make him comfortable. Have him lean back in a comfortable chair or lie him down in the bedroom. Have a cool or warm drink ready for him.
*Arrange his pillow and offer to take off his shoes. Speak in a low, soothing and pleasant voice.
*Don’t ask him questions about his actions or question his judgment or integrity. Remember, he is the master of the house and as such will always exercise his will with fairness and truthfulness. You have no right to question him.
*A good wife always knows her place.
Its amazing how far we have come in 50 years and thank goodness for that!! We are now empowered to not only take care of our home, but we are voters, career women, mothers, respected business owners, leaders, politicians, independant women, etc....we do it ALL. And while we are taking care of all sorts of business, we are still holding things down in the bedroom whether with a partner or by ourselves ;-).
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From Housekeeping Monthly, 13 May, 1955.
*Have dinner ready. Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal ready on time for his return. This is a way of letting him know that you have be thinking about him and are concerned about his needs. Most men are hungry when they get home and the prospect of a good meal is part of the warm welcome needed.
*Prepare yourself. Take 15 minutes to rest so you’ll be refreshed when he arrives. Touch up your make-up, put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh-looking. He has just been with a lot of work-weary people.
*Be a little gay and a little more interesting for him. His boring day may need a lift and one of your duties is to provide it.
*Clear away the clutter. Make one last trip through the main part of the house just before your husband arrives. Run a dustcloth over the tables.
*During the cooler months of the year you should prepare and light a fire for him to unwind by. Your husband will feel he has reached a haven of rest and order, and it will give you a lift too. After all, catering to his comfort will provide you with immense personal satisfaction.
*Minimize all noise. At the time of his arrival, eliminate all noise of the washer, dryer or vacuum. Encourage the children to be quiet.
*Be happy to see him.
*Greet him with a warm smile and show sincerity in your desire to please him.
*Listen to him. You may have a dozen important things to tell him, but the moment of his arrival is not the time. Let him talk first – remember, his topics of conversation are more important than yours.
*Don’t greet him with complaints and problems.
*Don’t complain if he’s late for dinner or even if he stays out all night. Count this as minor compared to what he might have gone through at work.
*Make him comfortable. Have him lean back in a comfortable chair or lie him down in the bedroom. Have a cool or warm drink ready for him.
*Arrange his pillow and offer to take off his shoes. Speak in a low, soothing and pleasant voice.
*Don’t ask him questions about his actions or question his judgment or integrity. Remember, he is the master of the house and as such will always exercise his will with fairness and truthfulness. You have no right to question him.
*A good wife always knows her place.
Its amazing how far we have come in 50 years and thank goodness for that!! We are now empowered to not only take care of our home, but we are voters, career women, mothers, respected business owners, leaders, politicians, independant women, etc....we do it ALL. And while we are taking care of all sorts of business, we are still holding things down in the bedroom whether with a partner or by ourselves ;-).
www.brownbagparty.com/svaldez
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